Manner, where art thou?

we have been taught to behave well since we were young. as for I myself as a chinese, manner matters. it shows not only how good i am as a person but also how good my parents raise me. and in chinese culture, "saving the face" is crucial. so we better watch our manners, or our parents will do. and it's not gonna be nice.

i believe i behave well and i keep my manners good enough (yes, it's a self confession). and during my time working with children, teachers are forced to behave well every second, at least in front of children and parents. children can pick up any misbehaviour quickly. so, during my two and half year time, we (teachers) remind and support each other to behave well. we appreciate people who have good manner.

now, the point is that not all people practice good manner. "sorry, please, and thank you" are the basic words that you use to show manners. we remind every kids and ourselves basically every day to keep close with those words. and kids pick them up quite well. but how about adults? they seem to forget those words. the older you are doesn't mean you have better manner. nope! shockingly i found that even directors, with such high position and degree, do not necessarily pratice manner! it's upsetting for me. because when people with low socio-economic background do not practice manner, you can give yourself excuses. but when peope with high socio-economic background do not practice manner, what is your excuse?

moreover, when people are being nice to you, can you be nice too? i'm not a hypocrite, if people do nasty things to you, you can either slap that person or still being nice. but when people are being nice to you, please please please be nice! what privilege do you have to be nasty to other people? humans have same beginning (birth) and same ending (death)-Morris, in what sense you think you are higher than others so that you can be nasty to others? seriously it's ridiculous. stop acting childish and behave, adults!